A sex position rut that, that is. You know how it goes. You've been in a long term relationship for awhile, or a long while, and the sex becomes rote.
You might still have a good time. And the chemistry and/or love is still there. But the excitement is gone. You've explored each other's body quite a bit or you have both had a long day and you really just want connection and release without much thinking. I get that. I totally do. But you still need to think about your partner.
You might be thinking that you know the person. You know how they like it. But that still doesn't get you off the hook for creating an exciting sexual experience for them. Boredom is the death of sex lives. Head this problem off before it is even created by changing things up.
Don't start in the same position. Don't finish in the same position. Do it on the couch or chair instead of the bed. Or don't wait until you get home after that great dinner or party-- do it in the car. Or the bathroom at the bar if you are feeling extra adventurous.
There are tons of books devoted to the myriad ways to fornicate, the oldest probably being the kama sutra. Read one together and try some new positions to see if they do it for you. (Some will and some won't.) But always keep trying.
And don't think this is just for people in relationships--this applies to you single folks, too. Just because you do it with a different partner each time doesn't mean you shouldn't vary up your routine. They will feel it if you are working off of a habit instead of being in the moment. Try new stuff out. If you are pretty sure you aren't going to see that person again, what have you got to lose?
Happy fucking!
Kendall
